In a society that places so much value on material possessions, it can be easy for kids to take their good fortune for granted. Teaching thankfulness is one of a parent’s most important jobs, especially when many experts have cited a link between being grateful and increased happiness.
So how can you cultivate appreciation in your child in a world of excess? As we head into the season of giving, here are five ways to help your child develop an attitude of gratitude:
1. SET AN EXAMPLE:
As a parent, you are your child’s most powerful rode model. They absorb your words and actions, so use that influence to show him or her what thankfulness looks like. When you’re feeling appreciative, whether for a full grocery cart, quality family time or someone else’s kindness, make sure to share that with your child. And when your child does something for you or someone else that warms your heart, make sure you express how that gesture made you feel.
2. EMPHASIZE “PLEASE” AND “THANK YOU”
Many of us can remember our own parents reminding us to use the “magic words” when we were growing up, and the message is just as relevant — if not more so — today. Saying “please” and “thank you” is more than common courtesy or politeness; it’s a display of kindness and respect that causes us to be mindful of what we ask for and receive.
3. GIVE BACK TOGETHER
Show your child that he or she can make a difference in the lives of others who are less fortunate. Arrange opportunities for you and your family to volunteer together and encourage your child to donate clothing or toys he or she no longer uses. Such experiences not only help children develop empathy, self-esteem and a sense of responsibility, but they expand their worldview and foster leadership skills.
4. MAKE GRATITUDE A HABIT
Every day, make a point to take a thankfulness pause with your child. Your family may choose to take turns sharing something you’re grateful for around the dinner table, or you could talk about the day’s blessings at bedtime. This routine will help your child cultivate a consistent mindset of appreciation.
5. FIND THE BRIGHT SIDE
Even the most challenging situations and biggest disappointments can have a silver lining. When something doesn’t go your child’s way, take the opportunity to ask him or her what good has — or could — come from it. By teaching children to seek the silver lining, you’ll help them build resilience and realize how much they have to be thankful for — even on a bad day.