If we want to tell others that we love them, we think of words or actions, depending on our love language and theirs, that will shine brightly. So why can it be so challenging to show ourselves love? Is it, perhaps, that we are unpracticed and don’t know what it looks like, or how it should make us feel?
If we want to tell others that we love them, we think of words or actions, depending on our love language and theirs, that will shine brightly. So why can it be so challenging to show ourselves love? Is it, perhaps, that we are unpracticed and don’t know what it looks like, or how it should make us feel?
We certainly can do as Miley Cyrus suggests and buy ourselves flowers, which is so uplifting and lovely. However, there are more subtle, lasting ways to express self-love. How many of these can you incorporate into each day?
- Stop rushing. This is a big one, especially if you are a mom or caregiver. When we slow down and give ourselves the space to breathe, that is a gift. The only one who will notice is someone who doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Think about that for a minute; it’s up to you to set the pace in many circumstances. The constant fight-or-flight state of being is healthy for no one.
- In a beautiful, small dish, mindfully put out your daily supplements and medications the night before near your coffee pot or toothbrush. This self-love ritual helps you remember that caring for yourself is important and will get your essentials into your body consistently.
- Go to bed when you know you need to, not when you’re done with everything. Because you know, we’re never done with everything.
- Don’t have that last cookie, extra piece of cake or another glass of wine that you know is just enough to put you over the edge. More isn’t always “I love you.” More can just be too much.
- Schedule yourself on the calendar. Whether it’s taking a walk, practicing yoga, going to the gym, stretching, cycling, journaling or whatever you need, make an appointment for yourself like you do with everything else that is important.
- Choose kind thoughts and words when addressing yourself, especially when you mess up. Give yourself the grace and space you give others.
- Between the time you wake up and before you go to bed, find moments to whisper to yourself, “I love you.” Although this may feel odd at first, do it anyway. It gets easier the more you start to believe it.
We all want love. It’s the most common universal desire. The love we give ourselves provides the foundation to offer a strong outpouring of love to others. So, find ways to say, “I love you” throughout your day, and you’ll start to feel the love flow back exponentially.
