The tragic death of Ocean Springs teen Aubreigh Wyatt devasted the Coast community and left many moms facing the same terrifying thought: What if this were my child?
Thirteen-year-old Wyatt allegedly was experiencing bullying before taking her own life last September. Interest in the case has resurfaced amid news reports of a lawsuit filed against Heather Wyatt, Aubreigh’s mother, by the families of four of her daughters’ alleged bullies — claiming slander, defamation and negligence against the girls.
Sadly, studies by Yale University have shown that over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it. Bullying victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, the studies found.
Meanwhile, mothers often feel helpless and worried, wondering how they can protect their children. Rest assured that parents can play a crucial role in helping their children cope with bullying and other challenges. Here are some steps you can take:
1. ENCOURAGE OPEN COMMUNICATION
Actively listen and encourage your child to talk about his or her day and listen without interrupting. Show empathy and understanding.
2. GATHER INFORMATION
If your child is experiencing bullying or struggling in some other way, make sure you understand what is happening, who is involved and where it occurs. Keep a record of bullying incidents, including dates, times, and descriptions.
3. TEACH COPING STRATEGIES
Encourage activities that build self-esteem and confidence. Teach your child how to assertively respond to bullies without escalating the situation.
4. WORK WITH THE SCHOOL
Inform teachers, school counselors and administrators about what is happening. Collaborate with them to develop a plan to ensure your child’s safety and follow up frequently.
5. DEVELOP A SUPPORT SYSTEM
Encourage friendships and help your child build a support network. Consider consulting a counselor or therapist if the situation warrants professional help.
6. MONITOR ONLINE ACTIVITY
Teach your child about safe online behavior and monitor their online interactions. Ensure your child’s social media accounts have the proper privacy settings.
7. MODEL APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR
Demonstrate how to handle conflicts calmly and respectfully. Show empathy and respect in your interactions with others.
8. EMPOWER YOUR CHILD
Help your child develop strategies to solve problems and deal with bullying. Give your child a say in how he or she wants to handle the situation.
9. CREATE A SAFE ENVIRONMENT
Ensure your child feels safe and supported at home. Praise your child when he or she shows courage and resilience.
10. STAY INVOLVED
Regularly check in with your child about his or her experiences and feelings. Be aware of the signs of bullying and stay informed about the issue.