An essential aspect of children’s development is healthy self-esteem. Having a positive view of themselves allows kids to better handle setbacks, peer pressure or other harmful situations. Children with self-esteem are confident. As parents, we can ensure that we nurture our child’s self-esteem in a few simple ways.
Understand what healthy self-esteem looks like
It helps if we understand what it looks like to have healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is how much one values himself or herself. It is how someone feels about his or her abilities and limitations. This is shaped by the love and support received from the critical people in our lives. Providing a healthy balance of other core values such as empathy, integrity, and respect also helps.
Love them unconditionally
An important foundation for children’s healthy self-esteem is to know how much they are loved. It provides them with a sense of security, and it also will help them in how they form and respond to future relationships. Express your love to them often with plenty of hugs and affection.
Encourage their independence
An overbearing parent undermines children’s ability to handle things independently. Allow them to try to solve problems on their own before jumping in. Teach them how to express themselves by allowing them to pick out their clothes for school or discuss issues with their teachers.
Never insult or talk down to them
While it may be normal to become frustrated when your child misbehaves, you should refrain from talking negatively or insulting them. A good rule of thumb is to calm yourself first before trying to discipline. When discussing problems, do so firmly, but with respect. Use discipline as a teachable moment.
Limit technology use
Technology can be a gift and a curse. We all are constantly connected to our phones, tablets or laptops, which has altered communication and family relationships drastically. Too much screen time can affect physical activity, as well as emotional connections. Decide how much online activity is necessary for you and your family, and make a plan. Incorporate a healthy balance of activities outside of the screens, such as recreational sports or family game nights.
Ariel Chamberlain is mom and lifestyle blogger based on the Mississippi Gulf Coast. Connect with her via Instagram (@thelemonsoflife1, her blog (www.thelemonsoflife.com) or by email at arielc@thelemonsoflife.com.
