by Rebecca Ritchey
Moms need to stick together. One of my friends is a young mom, a wife and a mother of three children, and she was diagnosed with breast cancer this year. I have watched other moms surround her with support in a number of ways when she had a double mastectomy and is now currently going through chemotherapy. Take time to look at what is going on in your friend’s life and be the person that makes her life a little easier! Here are some ways you can help:
DELIVER MEALS
My favorite meal coordination website is “Take Them A Meal” (takethemameal.com). The meal recipient can note dietary needs and others can see what each person is bringing to avoid repeat meals. When I was on bedrest during my last pregnancy, this website was used and our family didn’t have to think about dinners. A friend from Hawaii even had pizza delivered to my door! Preparing a home-cooked meal or having one delivered is a tangible way to help.
COMFORT ITEMS
My friend going through chemotherapy has had many comfort items made for her or given to her — hats, scarves, head wraps and blankets. I had a major surgery last year and my parents gave me a care package that had a nightgown, chocolate, fan, headband and a toiletry bag for the hospital stay. These comfort items meant so much! If you have gone through a similar situation that a friend is going through, consider what helped you and create a care package for them.
CHILDCARE
As moms, our children are at the forefront of our minds. Offer to take your friend’s children for a couple hours, the day or overnight. Taking the children out for a day of fun at the park, some arts and crafts, or the movies will also take their minds off of what is happening to their parent.
CLEANING
Help your mom friend clean her house once a week. If there is a day that is rough for your friend, go the day before and clean so she can relax knowing things are taken care of in her own home.
ENCOURAGEMENT
Encouragement is an easy way to help your friends. Send them a card in the mail, a cute picture via text, and some encouraging words. Pray for your friend and let them know they are not alone.
Ritchey is CEO of the Ritchey household, the mother of three children and wife to Jonathan. Reach her at rebeccaritchey@ymail.com.